Resolutions (or Want-to-dos vs. Have-to-dos)
  1/11/2010 8:45:15 PM
 

A recent discussion with a friend brought up the topic of New Year's Resolutions. Usually the ones at the top of many people’s list are the resolutions to lose weight and/or exercise more often. After getting married, having two children and hosting the new pounds that seem to come as a birthday gift each year, I found myself making those same resolutions. Mine went something like this:

2003: I will get my weight below 150
 
2004: I will count my calories until I get below 160

2005: I will follow my new diet religiously until I get below 170

2006: I will try to develop a realistic attitude about my weight

2007: I will work out 5 days a week

2008: I will work out 3 days a week

2009: I will try to drive by a gym at least once a week.

NOTE: I can’t believe I just shared my personal past New Year’s resolutions! All fictiousous numbers of course! A girl never discloses her real age or weight.

This year I resolved to simply make resolutions for others in my family. I told my kids their New Year’s resolution is to make their beds and tidy their room every day. Just like adults and their resolve to stick to resolutions, my kids’ eagerness to accomplish this goal lasted about a week.

My friend actually said the topic of resolutions made her think of one of my past blogs, “Type Aim-less for the Holidays” http://www.longos.com/rosanneblog/ViewBlog.aspx?BlogNumber=63. She decided the focus of her resolutions was to put more emphasis on her “want-to-dos” instead of her “have-to-dos”. What a great idea!

My first thought was “Wow, something I wrote about actually resonated with someone and even stuck with them 2 months later!” She decided that for every “have-to-do” or resolution, there should be 3 “want-to-dos” that get accomplished. Kind of like a reward for sticking to the “have-to-do”. Of course I am immediately reminded that I have to lose 10 lbs by March Break because I want to indulge in all that endless 24/7 cruise food while we’re away!
 
 
1/12/2010 2:35:18 PM, Rosanne wrote:
Love it Susanna! Are you a professional procrastinator? I did some research for you and it appears there are 2 rules of procrastination (contributed from an unknown source): 1) Do it today and 2) Tomorrow will be today tomorrow. I have a few friends who subscribe to the school of thinking: “If it weren’t for the last minute, I wouldn’t get anything done.” This seems to work well for them for things like Christmas shopping as well as everyday life. However, they are never available to go see a movie or go for a spontaneous coffee as they are always scrambling to complete their “to-do” list at the last minute. I came across a fitting Spanish proverb that says “Tomorrow is often the busiest day of the week.” I would like to help you with your procrastination situation and I will put that on my “want-to-do” list. In the meantime, my best advice to you is a quote I read from Gerald Vaughan: “Proscrastination is something best put off until tomorrow.”
1/12/2010 10:20:01 AM, Susanna wrote:
I like it!  Great incentive and I think that it is something I can live with.  Have to do.....want to do.........life's balance!  I will start today or maybe tomorrow or maybe next week......can you help me with my procrastination too?  Any thoughts?
1/12/2010 8:12:49 AM, Rosanne wrote:
Hi Gabriela, thanks for sharing your targets. Each of the undertakings sound very rewarding. I'm a big fan of Longo's Loft cooking classes not only for the great recipes, but mostly for the fantastic tips and tricks of the trade that I learn. You can choose a venue and class using our online brochure http://www.longos.com/uploads/fom/the_loft/the_loft.asp
1/11/2010 9:42:01 PM, Gabriela wrote:
Hello Rosanne,
 
Well, more than resolutions I see them more like targets.
  1. One of them is to finish all my courses at college and get certified this year.
  2. Also I want to visit my Dad and spend a few days with him.
  3. Want to expand my creative workshops into new venues and finish my second book.
  4. Want to take some cooking classes...
 
 
~ Gabriela ~